5 Reasons to Get Dressed

Get Dressed
Stay at home moms can fall into a rut of not getting dressed. They wake up early, and they might even go workout, but for some reason they just stay in stretch pants or sweats all day. Why? Well, because it’s comfy, easy, and most will say, “I’m just at home anyways, why should I get dressed?” I will tell you!

1. By getting up first thing and taking a shower you are waking your self up. Just to make sure we are on the same page, not a bath or a hot steamy shower, like the ones that put you to sleep! Just a hello its morning shower. By doing this, you are not only waking yourself up, but there is a freshness that comes with it. Nothing can freshen you up like a shower.

2. Another reason to get dressed first thing in the morning, is for the simple fact you don’t exactly know what that day holds. You might not have any other time to get dressed. I know I personally I have had days that I’m running 90 mph and before I know it my husband is walking through the door. If I hadn’t taken the time to get dressed first thing, he might be walking into a home with a stinky slob and sad to say, years ago, there were days this happened.

3. When you take time to get dressed in the morning, you are taking time to invest in yourself, and that is very important. Stay at home moms are consistently serving and giving to others all day. By pampering yourself for 20 or 30 minutes in the morning, it will give you just that little bit of edge to keep going when you look in the mirror at 3pm. Just imagine what you would look like at 3pm if you didn’t get dressed! Yikes!

4. There is a confidence that comes by getting dressed. How do you feel on Sunday morning at church or on a date with your husband? You mostly likely walk taller and your self imagine is mostly likely higher on those days, because you took time to get dressed. Now, how do you feel when your hair hasn’t been washed, it’s in a mess bun from last night, you have on stretch pants with bleach stains or baggy pajamas that smell like syrup. I guarantee you, on those days, you don’t walk as confident.

5. My last reason to get dressed in the morning, is for your mindset. When getting dressed first thing, you are switching your mind from sleep, comfort, relax and lazy mode, to focused, determined, and ready to conquer whatever challenges come at you that day!

Start tomorrow, throw your jammies in the dirty clothes, lay out a pair of pants or skirt, wash the sleep off your face, put on some powder and lotion, and fix your hair. Then tell me if you feel a difference in your day!

Just Don’t Do It….

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For eight years, we have put up our Christmas tree with old miscellaneous ornaments. We loved our tree, it told the story of our life. This year I decided to do a themed tree in our living-room, in front of the window, therefore moving most of the other ornaments to our 2nd tree, in the family room. After browsing online pictures, I had a vision of what I wanted our tree to look like. I then went out and bought ornaments for 70% off at Michael’s, Joann, Hobby Lobby, and even some from T.J. Maxx. I was so proud of our tree, but when my husband got home, I found myself saying, “I know it’s not like such and such’s tree, but don’t you like it?” Of course he loved it, why wouldn’t he? Five minutes before he walked through the door I was so proud of my work, but as soon as I showed him, doubt and comparison came into my mind.

blog5Comparing is one of the deadliest things to do. There is nothing good that comes out of comparing yourself with someone else. Most people compare themselves and will end up feeling inadequate, other times people compare themselves with friends and family and end up feeling greater than they should. Either way, wrongful thoughts come out of comparing.

Ornament-Hobby LobbyThis time of year, you will see lots of Christmas decorations on trees, houses, yards, mailboxes, etc. Let me encourage you to not compare. God has given each of us a beautiful creative spirit. Be proud of your designs and art pieces you come with it. Stop all thoughts of comparison, which can lead to jealous and low self-esteem. You are unique, handcrafted by our Heavenly Father. Put your heart into your work and do your best, then take pride and let no one take that from you, including yourself!

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Christmas Countdown (25 books)

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I saw a great idea online a few days ago, so I thought, why don’t we try it this year. Basically, you pick out 25 Christmas books and you wrap them up. We are wrapping a mixture of books because we don’t have 25 Christmas books. Each night, one of your kids will choose a book to unwrap for the family to read. If the child is old enough, and they would like, they can read it out loud, instead of the parents. We are also going to switch up the times we read our book. Most of the family readings will be at night, around bed time, but other days we will read at breakfast time, around the table. Last but not least, you can make your collection of books, all Christ centered for the Christmas season (which is great), but again we have chosen a mixture, between Jesus’s birth, one or two Santa books, a Mickey Mouse Carol and old favorites.

Below is our book list, some are new that I just purchased this year and others I pulled off our bookshelves.

The Christmas Countdown Book List:
1. God Gave Us Christmas by Lisa Bergren
2. The King’s Christmas by Eldon Johnson
3. The Crippled Lamb by Max Lucado
4. The Pine Tree Parable by Liz Curtis Higgs
5. Isty Bitsy Christmas: You’re Never Too Little for His Love! by Max Lucado
6. Living Lights: The Berenstain Bears and the Joy of Giving by Jan Berenstain and Mike Berenstain
7. The Beginner’s Bible: The Very First Christmas
8. Song of the Stars: A Christmas Story by Sally Lloyd-Jones
9. Who’s Hiding?: A Christmas Lift-the-Flap Book by Vicki Howie, Krisztina Kallai Nagy
10. Humphrey’s First Christmas by Carol Heyer
11. The Velveteen Rabbit by Margery Williams
12. Every Which Way to Pray by Joyce Meyer
13. Mickey’s Christmas Carol
14. The Princess and the Kiss by Jennie Bishop
15. Dance Me, Daddy by Cindy Morgan
16. The Rainbow Fish by Marcus Pfister
17. Just In Case You Ever Wonder by Max Lucado
18. You Are Special by Max Lucado
19.Chicka Chicka Boom Boom by Bill Martin Jr. and John Archambault
20.  A New Coat for Anna by Harriet Ziefert and Anita Lobel
21. My Sister and I by P.K. Hallinan
22. Llama Llama Red Pajama by Anna Dewdney
23. The Christmas Story by Patricia Pingry
24. Christmas is Here! Flap Book
25. The Christmas Story by Nick Page

So go pop some popcorn, grab a couple of blankets, snuggle up close with the family on the couch, and start a new family Christmas tradition!

Turkey (Foot)-Craft

Getting into the Thanksgiving Spirit! Gobble! Gobble!

Here’s a fun Thanksgiving craft for parent and child. The best part of the craft is painting your child’s foot. I loved hearing them laugh as I tickled their feet with the paint brush.

I hope I can encourage you to not get lost in the cooking and shopping these next few days, but take time to actually enjoy the holiday. Make crafts, play outside, and find ways to let your kids help you cook those special yummy treats, in the kitchen.  Trust me, you won’t regret investing in family traditions that include the kids!
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Just a Peek…

IMG_4824One of the reasons I started this blog last year was because people kept asking me, “how do you do it?” “How do you homeschool three kids with a newborn?” Well, here’s a little peek into one of our mornings at the Boy’s Home. Alayna is taking a math test (multiplication and division), Victoria is working on special sounds “sw” and “str”, Kayla is at her VPK class, Josiah is taking a nap, and I’m couponing!

I am big on multitasking! There’s just not enough time in the day to do one thing at a time! So, here I am able to sit by Alayna and clip coupons for our grocery visit today (by which I saved over $70), while she works on her test. Our homeschool table/desk is nice because it provides enough space for independent study, but also encourages group work.

Disclaimer: Though the picture above portrays a calm setting, this is not always the case!

O Be Careful Little Mouth…

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O be careful little mouth what you say,
O be careful little mouth what you say,
For there’s a Father up above,
Looking down in tender love,
So, be careful little mouth what you say.

If I were to ask how many of you have heard this children’s song, most would say yes, once or twice, in Sunday school or at Vacation Bible School. Even though this song was written for children, I think adults should wake up singing it every morning, then at lunch time, and then maybe on the way home from work.

In our classroom hangs a poster with these words, “before you speak, THINK, T-is it true?, H-is it helpful?, I-is it inspiring?, N-is it necessary?, K-is it kind?” This poster isn’t just for our kids, but it’s also for me.

James 3:2-10, paints us a great picture of the power that’s in our tongue, “For we all stumble in many ways. And if anyone does not stumble in what he says, he is a perfect man, able also to bridle his whole body. If we put bits into the mouths of horses so that they obey us, we guide their whole bodies as well. Look at the ships also: though they are so large and are driven by strong winds, they are guided by a very small rudder wherever the will of the pilot directs. So also the tongue is a small member, yet it boasts of great things. How great a forest is set ablaze by such a small fire! And the tongue is a fire, a world of unrighteousness. The tongue is set among our members, staining the whole body, setting on fire the entire course of life, and set on fire by hell. …”

Did you know there are over 130 verses in the Bible about taming the tongue. We are given warning after warning through these verses, but yet we ignore His word and speak from our harsh and unrighteous emotions. Below I listed a few Bible verses that speak on taming the tongue, I encourage you to write them down in a journal or in the back of your Bible. Spend time daily looking over the verses and memorizing them, then make a conscious decision to T-H-I-N-K before you speak.

“A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” ~Proverbs 15:1

“Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.” ~Ephesians 4:29

“There is one whose rash words are like sword thrusts, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.” ~Proverbs 12:8

“If anyone thinks he is religious and does not bridle his tongue but deceives his heart, this person’s religion is worthless.” ~James 1:26

“Whoever keeps his mouth and his tongue keeps himself out of trouble.” ~Proverbs 21:23

“From the same mouth come blessing and cursing. My brothers, these things ought not to be so.” ~James 3:10

“It is not what goes into the mouth that defiles a person, but what comes out of the mouth; this defiles a person.” ~Matthew 15:11

“Your tongue plots destruction, like a sharp razor, you worker of deceit.” ~Psalm 52:2

“The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.” ~Proverbs 18:21

My daughter, Victoria (6 years-old), recently went to a girl at church and said she was sorry for something mean the little girl said to her last week. Yes, that’s right, Victoria did nothing wrong, but wanted to start out her conversation by saying sorry, in hopes something good would come out of it. Victoria then asked, “can we be friends?” The girl replied back, “no, I already have friends.” Victoria, then said, “you can never have too many friends!” This story pierced my heart, hearing that someone was mean to my little girl angered me, but at the same time I was so proud of Victoria for choosing her words wisely and not retaliating with hurtful ones.

Dear Lord, help our words to be full of grace, mercy, and love. Let us be slow to speak and quick to think about how our words can bring life or death. Help us to speak with wisdom and not with our emotions. In Jesus name Amen!

Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone. ~Colossians 4:6

“Speak Life”
by Toby Mac

Some days, life feels perfect.
Other days it just ain’t workin.
The good, the bad, the right, the wrong
And everything in between.

Though it’s crazy, amazing
We can turn a heart with the words we say.
Mountains crumble with every syllable.
Hope can live or die

So speak Life, speak Life.
To the deadest darkest night.
Speak life, speak Life.
When the sun won’t shine and you don’t know why.
Look into the eyes of the brokenhearted;
Watch them come alive as soon as you speak hope,
You speak love, you speak…
You speak Life, You speak Life. 

Some days the tongue gets twisted;
Other days my thoughts just fall apart.
I do, I don’t, I will, I won’t,
It’s like I’m drowning in the deep.

Well it’s crazy to imagine,
Words from our lips as the arms of compassion,
Mountains crumble with every syllable.
Hope can live or die.

So speak Life, speak Life.
To the deadest darkest night.
Speak life, speak Life.
When the sun won’t shine and you don’t know why.
Look into the eyes of the brokenhearted;
Watch them come alive as soon as you speak hope,
You speak love, you speak…
You speak Life, You speak Life. 

Lift your head a little higher,
Spread the love like fire,
Hope will fall like rain,
When you speak life with the words you say.

Raise your thoughts a little higher,
Use your words to inspire,
Joy will fall like rain,
When you speak life with the things you say.

Lift your head a little higher,
Spread the love like fire,
Hope will fall like rain,
When you speak life with the words you say.

So speak Life, speak Life.
To the deadest darkest night.
Speak life, speak Life.
When the sun won’t shine and you don’t know why.
Look into the eyes of the brokenhearted;
Watch them come alive as soon as you speak hope,
You speak love, you speak…
You speak Life, You speak Life.
You speak Life, You speak Life.
Some days life feels perfect.

If you want to watch the music video to “Speak Life”, click here.

Happy Birthday Bubba!

My brother, Robert Martin, is an amazing person and today is his 30th birthday! I wanted to do something special for his big 3-0 birthday….this is what I came up with…I asked family and friends to send cards and letters of encouragement to my home address two weeks ago. I collected them all and hung them in my brother’s room this afternoon, along with 30 $1 dollar bills, 30 snickers (on the window), and 30 decorative silly strings. Thank you everyone that helped make this possible with your cards, letters, and emails. 

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Happy 30th Birthday to the Best Brother Ever! I love you so much!

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Welcome Home

Welcome HomeYou have been working all day, fixing problems, handling customer issues, returning calls, walking from one place to the other and now you are on your way home, your sanctuary, your safe haven.  All you can think about is sitting around the dinner table with your family and putting your feet up after supper. You finally walk through the door and the house is hot, toys are all over the floor, the kids are watching tv with messy hair and stained clothes, your husband is on the phone upstairs. You glance at the clock to see it’s 6:30 pm and there’s no food on the stove or in the oven! Finally your husband comes down to greet you with stinky sweat pants that he worked out in this morning and bed hair that he never brushed! You take a deep breath and ask, “what’s for dinner, honey?” He replies, “I don’t know?”

Is your blood starting to boil? Are you feeling unloved and unappreciated? I wanted to give you an idea of how your husband might feel when he comes home from working all day to an untidy, chaotic house!

Here are some tips on making a welcoming homecoming….
1. Freshen up…put on some lip gloss, touch up your hair, and spray on his favorite perfume. Just think…in a few minutes, your favorite person in the entire world is coming home!

2. Prepare your greeting…for example at the moment your husband enters the house it’s not the time to ask, “Where have you been?”, “What took you so long?”, “Why didn’t you call?”

3. Have an idea what you are making for dinner and start it. Take the stress off yourself, sit down once a month and write out a monthly menu. You’ll thank me later.

4. Have the kids set the table. By doing so, you are showing dinner is on its way, even if it’s not done yet.

5. Freshen up your kids, build their suspense for dad’s arrival.

6. Turn down the air or start a fire, make sure the toys are put away and light a candle. The setting of your home can make or break your husband’s mood. Remember you aren’t going for perfection, but rather a tidy and welcoming home.

7. Finish up all phone calls and clear visitors before your husband’s arrival. Remember, he hasn’t seen his family all day and the last thing he wants is a house full of women talking about their opinions on life or his wife walking around the house giving advice on the phone to a friend. Just think what you are relaying when he walks through the door and you are on the phone…oh my husband’s home, who cares, he can wait!

8. Last, but not least, is Prayer. Prayer is at the root of preparing the heart. If you work outside the home pray you leave the negative events of your day at work. Pray God will give you the energy and physical strength to take care of your family. Let go of all expectations of help from your husband, but if you get it, praise God and thank your husband.

By preparing for your husband daily, you are communicating he’s a priority and your heart of love.

If you are having trouble with this article, I want you to turn to Luke 6:35-36, The Message writes it this way, “I tell you, love your enemies. Help and give without expecting in return. You’ll never—I promise—regret it. Live out this God-created identity the way our Father lives toward us, generously and graciously, even when we’re at our worst. Our Father is kind; you be kind.

Dear God I pray wives around the world will grasp the vision you have for them. I pray they understand we are not here to be served, but we are put on this earth to serve others. I pray that each wife takes this responsibility to heart, that they don’t see it as a negative chore, but a joyful way of taking care of their number one human relationship, their husband. In Jesus Name Amen!

Titus 2:4 “…that they admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children,…”

30 Acts of Thanksgiving (Day11)

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Day 11: Thankful for neighbors

Tonight Victoria and I made Oreo Truffles and they are so yummy if I do say so myself! We made these delicious treats for our new neighbors, that just moved into the neighborhood last week. Below is the recipe.

Oreo Truffles (Oreo Cream Cheese Balls)
Ingredients:
-16 oz Oreo Package
-8 oz Cream Cheese
-16 oz Semi-Sweet Chocolate Chips

Preparation:
1. Prepare a baking sheet by lining it with parchment paper.

2. Finely crush the cookies in a blender or food processor.

3. If using a food processor, add the cream cheese in large chunks and pulse a few times to until the candy consistency is that of dough. If you don’t have a food processor, stir together the softened cream cheese and crumbs until the candy is well-mixed.

4.Place the candy in the refrigerator to firm up for about 1 hour.

5. Form 1-inch balls and roll between your hands until they are round. Place the candies on the prepared baking sheet. Refrigerate them while you prepare the dipping chocolate.

6. Place the chocolate in a microwave-safe bowl and microwave until melted, stirring after every 15 to 30 seconds. Allow the chocolate to cool slightly, but do not let it harden.

7. Dip the candy balls in the melted chocolate and place on the parchment sheet.

8. Refrigerate them for another hour before devouring them!

Forgetting the Order

#2Around eight o’clock, in the morning, my husband comes home from the gym. I’m usually making breakfast for the kids, packing Kayla’s lunch for pre-school, and attending to our one year old, all while eating my breakfast standing up. This is my norm, but there is something missing in the equation…my husband! There were times he asked me to make him breakfast and I would smart off something like, “can’t you see how busy I am?” He has also asked me, to make his lunch and I would say, “I don’t have time this morning”. He had heard these answers for so long that he stop asking and it broke my heart, once I realized what I had been doing.

I was so use to juggling everything for our four young children that I had placed him last after their needs. This is not the order God has planned for marriage. Your husband must be your number two, right after God, not your number three, four, or five. You are here to serve him, help him, and support him!

Women can develop blurred vision when they become a mother. They take on this responsibility of caring and nurturing for a child and lose sight of dad, their mate, their husband. I want to help you today get your vision corrected. Here are some ways to strengthen your focus.

1. Get up earlier than normal, so you have enough time to take care of your husband’s needs as well as your children’s.
2. Go to bed early or at least a decent hour so you are able to remain strong throughout the day. The last thing your husband wants, is to see an exhausted wife laying on the couch, after he has been working all day.
3. Practice telling your kids to wait instead of your husband. Unless it is a life threatening matter, they can wait.
4. Make it a habit to say yes or sure when your husband asks for something.
5. Pray for him, everyday, all day. When you are continually praying and thinking about someone how could you push their needs aside.

In Matthew 6:21 it says, “Where your treasure is, there will your heart be also”…in this case, I want you to think where is all your time and effort going. Over investing in your children and under investing in your husband can cause problems that can lead to horrific conclusions. It’s not too late. Evaluate your vision. Once you do, I guarantee your husband will look better than you have ever seen him before!

Elizabeth George says it best in her book A Woman After God’s Own Heart, “Nothing just happens, including great marriages! As much as you and I might desire to be a wife who lovingly supports her husband, such loving support comes only with planning.” So plan alone times, plan dates, plan special dinners and plan special deeds of kindness, then reap a happy husband and a healthy marriage.

Dear God, help us to correct our order of priorities. Give us wisdom on how to organize our time and our day. Thank you for blessing each of us with a man that leads and supports our family. May we honor our husband by placing him second after You, therefore obeying Your Word. In Jesus Name, Amen

Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
~Ephesians 5:22-24

 “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.
~Ephesians 5:31-33