Do you know you are beautiful? “Kind of…”

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The other night as I tucked my daughter into bed, I looked into her eyes and said, “Do you know you are beautiful?” “Well, kind of” and then she put her head under the covers. “What is it? Why do you say kind of?” “Well, there’s a girl at church in the second grade that is really pretty.” “Oh, I see.” I explained just because someone else is pretty, doesn’t mean you aren’t. “God made each person beautiful in their own unique way.”

I enjoy telling the girls stories of what God was thinking when he designed each of them. For example, God thought to himself…I’m going to make Victoria with beautiful, long, thick eyelashes and eyes that can brighten up anyone’s day, and a heart that is more valuable than any piece of gold. After a few sentences, their faces always brighten up.

I know beauty on the outside is not the most important thing in life, but it is something little girls and big girls think about. As parents,we can tell our children they are beautiful everyday, but they have to believe it themselves.

Encourage your little ones today and everyday. Speak life into the inner and outer beauty, but make sure you ask them what they think of themselves. Don’t over look or take their thoughts lightly. To them their feelings and thoughts of their self-image is as real as the skin on their bodies.

Power Verses:
Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear— but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious. ~1 Peter 3:3-4

I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well. ~Psalm 139:14

She is more precious than jewels, and nothing you desire can compare with her. Long life is in her right hand; in her left hand are riches and honor. Her ways are ways of pleasantness, and all her paths are peace. She is a tree of life to those who lay hold of her; those who hold her fast are called blessed. ~Proverbs 3:15-18

I am…

I amYou might say, “Bethany I’m not all these things!” Psalm 139:13-14 says, “For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful. I know that full well.” Friend, you are wonderful! God has designed you to have these qualities and so much more.

There are often days we can have feelings of failure…crumbs are scattered all over the kitchen floor, there’s an avalanche on Mount Everest in your laundry room, and you burned the dinner again for the second time this week. Other times doubt comes in…am I doing a good job, does my husband know I love him, are my children learning anything? These are all thoughts from the enemy. We must take these thoughts captive, then stand strong and speak truth into our life.

When negative thoughts come in, I want you to stand in front of a mirror, pick your head up, bring your shoulders back, look into your eyes and speak the words from the poem “I am”…then believe it.

Power Scriptures:
“Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us,” -Ephesians 3:20

“I can do all this through him who gives me strength.” -Philippians 4:13

“I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.” -Psalm 139:14

 

O Be Careful Little Mouth…

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O be careful little mouth what you say,
O be careful little mouth what you say,
For there’s a Father up above,
Looking down in tender love,
So, be careful little mouth what you say.

If I were to ask how many of you have heard this children’s song, most would say yes, once or twice, in Sunday school or at Vacation Bible School. Even though this song was written for children, I think adults should wake up singing it every morning, then at lunch time, and then maybe on the way home from work.

In our classroom hangs a poster with these words, “before you speak, THINK, T-is it true?, H-is it helpful?, I-is it inspiring?, N-is it necessary?, K-is it kind?” This poster isn’t just for our kids, but it’s also for me.

James 3:2-10, paints us a great picture of the power that’s in our tongue, “For we all stumble in many ways. And if anyone does not stumble in what he says, he is a perfect man, able also to bridle his whole body. If we put bits into the mouths of horses so that they obey us, we guide their whole bodies as well. Look at the ships also: though they are so large and are driven by strong winds, they are guided by a very small rudder wherever the will of the pilot directs. So also the tongue is a small member, yet it boasts of great things. How great a forest is set ablaze by such a small fire! And the tongue is a fire, a world of unrighteousness. The tongue is set among our members, staining the whole body, setting on fire the entire course of life, and set on fire by hell. …”

Did you know there are over 130 verses in the Bible about taming the tongue. We are given warning after warning through these verses, but yet we ignore His word and speak from our harsh and unrighteous emotions. Below I listed a few Bible verses that speak on taming the tongue, I encourage you to write them down in a journal or in the back of your Bible. Spend time daily looking over the verses and memorizing them, then make a conscious decision to T-H-I-N-K before you speak.

“A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” ~Proverbs 15:1

“Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.” ~Ephesians 4:29

“There is one whose rash words are like sword thrusts, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.” ~Proverbs 12:8

“If anyone thinks he is religious and does not bridle his tongue but deceives his heart, this person’s religion is worthless.” ~James 1:26

“Whoever keeps his mouth and his tongue keeps himself out of trouble.” ~Proverbs 21:23

“From the same mouth come blessing and cursing. My brothers, these things ought not to be so.” ~James 3:10

“It is not what goes into the mouth that defiles a person, but what comes out of the mouth; this defiles a person.” ~Matthew 15:11

“Your tongue plots destruction, like a sharp razor, you worker of deceit.” ~Psalm 52:2

“The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.” ~Proverbs 18:21

My daughter, Victoria (6 years-old), recently went to a girl at church and said she was sorry for something mean the little girl said to her last week. Yes, that’s right, Victoria did nothing wrong, but wanted to start out her conversation by saying sorry, in hopes something good would come out of it. Victoria then asked, “can we be friends?” The girl replied back, “no, I already have friends.” Victoria, then said, “you can never have too many friends!” This story pierced my heart, hearing that someone was mean to my little girl angered me, but at the same time I was so proud of Victoria for choosing her words wisely and not retaliating with hurtful ones.

Dear Lord, help our words to be full of grace, mercy, and love. Let us be slow to speak and quick to think about how our words can bring life or death. Help us to speak with wisdom and not with our emotions. In Jesus name Amen!

Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone. ~Colossians 4:6

“Speak Life”
by Toby Mac

Some days, life feels perfect.
Other days it just ain’t workin.
The good, the bad, the right, the wrong
And everything in between.

Though it’s crazy, amazing
We can turn a heart with the words we say.
Mountains crumble with every syllable.
Hope can live or die

So speak Life, speak Life.
To the deadest darkest night.
Speak life, speak Life.
When the sun won’t shine and you don’t know why.
Look into the eyes of the brokenhearted;
Watch them come alive as soon as you speak hope,
You speak love, you speak…
You speak Life, You speak Life. 

Some days the tongue gets twisted;
Other days my thoughts just fall apart.
I do, I don’t, I will, I won’t,
It’s like I’m drowning in the deep.

Well it’s crazy to imagine,
Words from our lips as the arms of compassion,
Mountains crumble with every syllable.
Hope can live or die.

So speak Life, speak Life.
To the deadest darkest night.
Speak life, speak Life.
When the sun won’t shine and you don’t know why.
Look into the eyes of the brokenhearted;
Watch them come alive as soon as you speak hope,
You speak love, you speak…
You speak Life, You speak Life. 

Lift your head a little higher,
Spread the love like fire,
Hope will fall like rain,
When you speak life with the words you say.

Raise your thoughts a little higher,
Use your words to inspire,
Joy will fall like rain,
When you speak life with the things you say.

Lift your head a little higher,
Spread the love like fire,
Hope will fall like rain,
When you speak life with the words you say.

So speak Life, speak Life.
To the deadest darkest night.
Speak life, speak Life.
When the sun won’t shine and you don’t know why.
Look into the eyes of the brokenhearted;
Watch them come alive as soon as you speak hope,
You speak love, you speak…
You speak Life, You speak Life.
You speak Life, You speak Life.
Some days life feels perfect.

If you want to watch the music video to “Speak Life”, click here.