Category Archives: Marriage

Kissing

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KISSOne kiss, two kisses, three…Every morning the kids and I walk Daddy to his car. We each take our turn giving him hugs and kisses, but mine are extra special. When he’s in a hurry or has a lot on his mind he may only kiss me once, but most of the times I get at least two. The first one is always routine, but the second and third are electrifying. They say, I don’t only like you, but I still love you with all my heart and being, I care about you, and you are the one and only!

Kissing may indeed help maintain that bond; the researchers found that more frequent kissing in a relationship was linked to the quality of the relationship (realitycheck.com), so kiss away my married couples. Don’t let the most simple of act die away from your marriage. This little gesture is the rainbow sprinkles in your marriage and can be just the thing that keeps it flavorful!

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Happy!“It’s not my job to make my spouse happy!” -Kirk Martin

It’s okay for them to be upset. By accepting this truth, you won’t feel the need to nag your spouse about their feelings or attitude.

Yes, of course, ask them if they want to talk about it, but if the response is no…then feel the freedom to walk away and give them space.

When our spouse is upset, it makes US feel uncomfortable. We don’t want someone around us to be mad, when we are happy. That is why we feel the need to change their emotions. There is only one person you can control and that is yourself!

4 Things to Remember
*Don’t Nag
*Don’t Try to Change their Attitude or Feelings
*Give Them Space
*Pray for them

Again, the ONLY person you can control is your self!

 

Garden or Desert

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Invest What you feed grows. What you starve dies! Have you fed your marriage lately?

How do you prevent waking up to a stranger one day? How do you prevent the “roommate” feeling? INVEST! Invest in your spouse and your marriage. If you feel distant from your spouse, don’t ignore it…face it, talk about it, but don’t push it under the rug.

Relationships take deposits, take time to invest in your marriage!

 

Quitting is NOT an Option

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Quitting is not an Option!
A husband and wife will agree and disagree, it’s part of being human and having different personalities…but they may never agree on quitting.

Start your marriage off right and never use these words…separation or divorce. Don’t speak them, don’t even think about them. Quitting is not an option. Agree to push, press, run or whatever it takes to get through every obstacle that comes your way as a couple. “What God has joined together, let no one separate.” Including the two people who said “I Do”!

Is your Marriage oiled?

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Let me ask you a question. What will happen if you don’t oil your car? It will eventually break down, right? The same goes for your marriage. Unforgiveness brings isolation, destruction, and dry feelings, that will lead to divorce if not addressed.

I encourage you today friend, be slow to anger and quick to forgive. Remember just how much God has already forgiven you for. (Col. 3:13)

Commitment more than a Word

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“Commitment is more than a word, it’s a choice you make everyday to honor your word.”

Finding people today that stay committed is rare. When things get difficult and adversity comes, most quit…their jobs, friendships, church and even their marriages. Commitment is not for the weak or selfish. Commitment goes beyond our own strength, to stay true to our word we must rely on God for that strength. I guarantee, there will always be opposition, complications, and obstacles that come into your life. I encourage you in those moments to take refuge with your Heavenly Father, ask Him to give you the strength to overcome and stay committed to the decisions you have made.

My husband and I were talking the other day about a couple and then he turned to me and asked, “is there hope for that marriage?” I said, “there’s always hope!” Friend, I know life is difficult at times, but don’t give up! When the clouds look dark on one side, turn to the other side until you find the blue sky…it’s there, it just might take a little time to find it! Take hope in knowing today, God will never give up on you. Pray often, stay committed and believe we are more than conquerors through him that loves us!

Power Verses:

Yet in all these things we are more than conquerors through Him who loved us. ~Romans 8:37

I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. ~Philippians 4:13

Kill or Build…it’s your choice

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#215 Marriage Builders
(from Pastor Chris Hodges)
-love yourself first
-start each day with a hug
-say “I love you” before you part ways
-compliment freely and often
-slow down
-go on a date once every week
-kiss unexpectedly
-apologize sincerely
-be forgiving
-let her give you directions when your’re lost
-laugh at his jokes
-Men- ask her to marry you again
-Women- say yes
-never go to bed mad
-always work it out

10 Marriage Killers
(from Pastor Chris Hodges)
-over commitment and physical exhaustion
-debt and conflict over how money will be spent
-selfishness
-interference from in-laws
-unrealistic expectations
-alcohol or substance abuse
-pornography, gambling, and other addictive habits
-“grass is greener” syndrome
-business success