Kissing

KISSOne kiss, two kisses, three…Every morning the kids and I walk Daddy to his car. We each take our turn giving him hugs and kisses, but mine are extra special. When he’s in a hurry or has a lot on his mind he may only kiss me once, but most of the times I get at least two. The first one is always routine, but the second and third are electrifying. They say, I don’t only like you, but I still love you with all my heart and being, I care about you, and you are the one and only!

Kissing may indeed help maintain that bond; the researchers found that more frequent kissing in a relationship was linked to the quality of the relationship (realitycheck.com), so kiss away my married couples. Don’t let the most simple of act die away from your marriage. This little gesture is the rainbow sprinkles in your marriage and can be just the thing that keeps it flavorful!

Garden or Desert

Invest What you feed grows. What you starve dies! Have you fed your marriage lately?

How do you prevent waking up to a stranger one day? How do you prevent the “roommate” feeling? INVEST! Invest in your spouse and your marriage. If you feel distant from your spouse, don’t ignore it…face it, talk about it, but don’t push it under the rug.

Relationships take deposits, take time to invest in your marriage!

 

Is your Marriage oiled?

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Let me ask you a question. What will happen if you don’t oil your car? It will eventually break down, right? The same goes for your marriage. Unforgiveness brings isolation, destruction, and dry feelings, that will lead to divorce if not addressed.

I encourage you today friend, be slow to anger and quick to forgive. Remember just how much God has already forgiven you for. (Col. 3:13)

Kill or Build…it’s your choice

#215 Marriage Builders
(from Pastor Chris Hodges)
-love yourself first
-start each day with a hug
-say “I love you” before you part ways
-compliment freely and often
-slow down
-go on a date once every week
-kiss unexpectedly
-apologize sincerely
-be forgiving
-let her give you directions when your’re lost
-laugh at his jokes
-Men- ask her to marry you again
-Women- say yes
-never go to bed mad
-always work it out

10 Marriage Killers
(from Pastor Chris Hodges)
-over commitment and physical exhaustion
-debt and conflict over how money will be spent
-selfishness
-interference from in-laws
-unrealistic expectations
-alcohol or substance abuse
-pornography, gambling, and other addictive habits
-“grass is greener” syndrome
-business success

Six Letter Word…

six letter wordLast Monday I wrote about respect, today I want to talk about a six letter word…one of the most dreaded words by females. Many women ignore this word, rebuke this word, and down right hate this word! So, what is this six letter word that has caused so much controversy…submit. Yes, I said it, submit. Before you start burning bras and yelling at the top of your lungs, “equality!”…hear me out.

There are many different things I could say about submitting, but for time sake let me hit on just a few. The first thing I would like to say is, God does not value the husband more than wife. In Romans 2:11 and Acts 10:34 it tells us, “For God does not show favoritism.” Also in Galatians 3:28 it says, “nor is there male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus.” Now that you know God does not see your husband as his favorite child lets move on.

I want to take a look at Philippians 2:5-8, the word says, “In your relationships with one another, have the same mindset as Christ Jesus: Who, being in very nature God, did not consider equality with God something to be used to his own advantage; rather, he made himself nothing by taking the very nature of a servant, being made in human likeness. And being found in appearance as a man, he humbled himself by becoming obedient to death—even death on a cross!” Wow, even though Christ is equal to God, he did not go against Him. Instead, Jesus subordinated Himself to the will of the Father in order to carry out the plan of redemption. As we, the wife, should also submit ourselves to our husband so that God’s plan for the family can be carried out. Just imagine the chaos and arguing in the household of a family where the wife is constantly going against her husband. God is a God of order (1 Corinthians 14:33).

We each have a role. The wife’s role is not inferior, but her role is different. The Lord God says, in Genesis 2:18, “It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make a helper suitable for him.” God knew that our husband would need help. We were created for the man’s sake not the other way around.

To be a Proverbs 31 wife, you will need to add this six letter word to your life and then you can walk in complete joy knowing you are honoring God’s command.

Dear Lord, help each wife to see submission through the eyes of Christ and not through the opinions of the world. I pray every negative thought that we may have on submission is replaced with Your words of truth. In Jesus Name Amen