Speak so Your Spouse Understands

Love Imagine giving a presentation to a group of people from China and they don’t speak English. You shout, you use your arms, and point to things all in hopes to get your point across. After you have finished your presentation, your guests smile and politely walk out of the room. They felt your passion and saw your effort, but nothing was accomplished because of the language barrier.

The same goes for our marriage. We can present our spouse with lavish gifts and hours of quality time, but unless that is their primary love language, your acts are in vain. Communication is key in a healthy marriage, starting with our ability to communicate our love for our spouse. Don’t leave your spouse guessing how much you love them, learn their love language and speak it fluently.

For more guidance in this area, I recommend The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman.

Lack of Communication and Hurt Feelings

It was Thursday afternoon and my hubby was coming home! He had only been away for a couple of nights, but I missed him and couldn’t wait to see him. His flight was to land around 6:15pm, just around dinner time, and I know he doesn’t like to eat late.  I also knew he would want to stop by the house we are building to check on the progress, so I started cooking dinner and planned to bring it with me…this way he could eat a hot cooked meal in the car while I drove.  I was so excited that I had figured this all out, I just knew he would be thankful.
It was 6:20pm and I was pulling in to the airport to pick up my husband. Everyone was excited to see Daddy. Once the kids settled down l looked over at him and said, “I have your dinner for you,” with a great big smile! Then he informed me he had already eaten!
At the moment I could have been very crushed and taken it personal, but thankfully I wasn’t. It was my fault for not asking if he had planned to eat before he boarded the plane.
Communication is so important in marriage. We often get our feelings hurt because we didn’t communicate to our spouse our plans, instead we just assume which can cause an unnecessary argument.
No, my husband didn’t eat the dinner that I brought him that night, but he did notice that I was thinking of him and his needs. And that was good enough for me!