Imagine giving a presentation to a group of people from China and they don’t speak English. You shout, you use your arms, and point to things all in hopes to get your point across. After you have finished your presentation, your guests smile and politely walk out of the room. They felt your passion and saw your effort, but nothing was accomplished because of the language barrier.
The same goes for our marriage. We can present our spouse with lavish gifts and hours of quality time, but unless that is their primary love language, your acts are in vain. Communication is key in a healthy marriage, starting with our ability to communicate our love for our spouse. Don’t leave your spouse guessing how much you love them, learn their love language and speak it fluently.
For more guidance in this area, I recommend The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman.