A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones.

Proverbs 17:22

Being a stay-at-home mom of four little ones under the age of 8 is such a blessing, but it can also be draining. It can be draining emotionally, spiritually, mentally and physically. I’m on the go 24/7. There’s teaching, cooking, cleaning, feeding, changing, washing and anything else that has a “ing” in. It easy to lose sight of what we might look like at the end of the day.

Now picture with me your husband coming home after being at work all day. Hold up, don’t get crazy on me women, hear me out. He walks in the door the kids are running around, crumbs are all over the floor, and he looks up to see you with a yellow stained t-shirt, hair all crazy every way, bags under your eyes, and lets not even talk about your breath. Now again I know, it’s been a hard day, but that doesn’t mean you can’t take five minutes and freshen up for your husband.

When we get married, our husbands should continue to be complimenting us, pursuing us, dating us, and telling us how much he loves.  As for us women, we should continue to be aware of our looks for our husbands.

I remember saying to a friend one day, “Well, he’s married to me now so I don’t have to worry about what I look like”. Wow, really, Bethany? Thankfully God opened my eyes to a bigger picture and gave me wisdom about being a wife.

Freshening up doesn’t have to take an hour or two. Just enough time to put on a shirt without stains and the smell of spit up, comb your hair so it doesn’t look like you stuck your hand in a light socket, brush your teeth so your breath smells like when you were dating (you know what I’m talking about), and maybe put a squirt of perfume on. Then take some time to refresh your inner self, five or ten minutes to just relax, a couple of deep breaths, praying or even singing a couple of worship songs. Something that helps you smile from the inside out! No one wants to come home to a grumpy, frowny,  up tight lump.

Trust me it won’t just be for him but it will also give you a little pep in your walk and you’ll need it when it’s time to clean the messy kitchen after dinner.