For a wife, sex comes out of affection. She doesn’t want to be affectionate with a man who makes her feel angry, hurt, lonely, disappointed, overworked, unsupported, and uncared for, or abandoned. But for a husband, sex is pure NEED. His eyes, ears, brain, and emotions get clouded if he doesn’t have that release. He has trouble hearing anything his wife says or seeing what she needs when that area of his being is neglected. Wives sometimes have it backwards. They think, we could have sex after we get these other issues settled. But actually there is a far greater chance of settling the other issues if sex comes first.
That’s why it’s important to make sex a matter of priority in your marriage. Whether all conditions are perfect or whether you feel like it or not isn’t the point. The point is meeting the needs of your husband and keeping communication lines open. A man can easily be made to feel insignificant, beaten down, discouraged, destroyed, or tempted in this area of his being. There’s probably no more important means of fulfillment for a man, and no area where he is more vulnerable. (Excerpt from The Power of a Praying Wife by Stormie Omartian)
I like to explain it like this, “Sex isn’t the sprinkles on your marriage sundae. Kisses are the sprinkles that add flavor, but sex is the freezer that holds your marriage sundae together!”
That three letter word is not an option you can say no to. The health of your marriage depends on it!